For years I've told my daughter Alicia how I'd like her to "handle" my remains when I die. Generally I plan to leave her an amount of money set aside in a trust to do those things I would like her to do with my ashes when I die.
Why cremation? Well, I feel like I've consumed plenty of earth's resources now and certainly too many resources by the time I die. So the absolute last thing I'd want is to be buried in the earth, taking up space that can never be used to plant a tree or a flower, or build a place of learning, to build a home for a family. I'm not so egotistical or self-important that I'd want some place to rest eternally. Rest is in the act of moving on to the next life, not creating some shrine that no one visits except for a time or two a year (birth birth day or my death day).
Once I am cremated, the ashes will be divided and given to either of my parents to survive me (if at all), Alicia, and Chris. I would let my parents do as they wish with their portion of my remains. Alicia and Chris have a requirement to do a few things for me to honor the relationship I've had with them both. I may also leave a portion of the ashes to my other daughter, born in 1988 when I was 16 and adopted to a family in Ohio when she was 5 days old. That part I am not sure of, as I have not met her and don't know whether she would even care or want anything to do with me. But that's another topic for another post.
Back to Alicia and Chris. I want to leave Alicia a bit of money to take a trip. I want her to travel the world with my ashes, kind of the way
Courtney Love traveled and sought guidance from Buddhist monks when she wanted to honor her husband Kurt Cobain's ashes. I'd love suggestions of places from others. As for Chris, I'd want him to decide what to do. He is an independent soul and I'd hate to dictate to him how to remember me or set me free out into the universe. I'd want Chris to travel and seek the spiritual side of himself that I know he has but hasn't found. Maybe he and Alicia will travel some of that road together.
I would like to take her on the trip I'd hope to take with her someday - maybe some of the places will be places she takes her own daughter to someday, when they are at that place that mothers and daughters eventually meet, as two souls that know each other very well through time and love. Maybe some day I will be able to travel with Alicia to some amazing places in the world and she will revisit them with me in a simple little baggie, left there to enjoy the sights.
Here's a few I know I'd want her to do:

* Travel to
Spain and ride Andalusian horses * Travel to Portugal where her father's side of her family is from, riding horses if she wants, but in any case, to leave some of me in the Atlantic Ocean outside of Portugal or the
Azores (Portuguese: Açores or ɐˈsoɾʃ) * Leave some of me at the Atlantic Ocean anywhere along the East Coast of the US. I've always had an issue with living in a land-locked state, Tennessee and Ohio are the only two states I've every lived in which didn't touch an ocean somewhere on its coast
* Leave some of me at the
Marin Headlands so I can be overlooking the Golden Gate Bridge

* Leave some of me at
the place where the Ganges and Yamuna Rivers meet in India. It's a holy place and the last place I would want her to visit before returning home. Ideally she would coordinate her travels to the Ganges to
coincide with the Maha Kumbh Mela, which takes place every 12 years.
I'm sure I'll add to the list over the years, but these are my initial thoughts on where'd I like to go in the afterlife.